Most of us tend to base our idea of who we think we are on everyday roles such as being a parent, a spouse or even what we do in our jobs or careers. We sometimes even go to the extent of changing our personas in different social situations and act out of character because we think we have to fit in with everybody else.
By acting in this manner we are not being our true self at our deepest level. We feel lost and confused because we have to wear different masks for different occasions.
By following these three simple steps, you can start to live an authentic life that you do not have to apologize for.
Step 1: Know Your Core Values
Knowing your core values will help you understand what drives you in life; why you do what you do. Your core value will shade light on understanding—what you enjoy, what inspires you, and what you’d like more of and so on.
By building a life and lifestyle around our core values we create a life that is more satisfying and meaningful to us.
Step 2: Create an Action Plan
It is one thing to know your core values, but to live them is what gives us satisfaction and joy. Make a list of 3 to 7 activities you love to do and 3 goals you want to achieve. Look at the work you are doing and also look at the relationships you currently have. Do your core values align with what you want to do? If not make the necessary changes.
Make a plan for how you will include your activities into your life and then take the necessary steps for achieving your goals. Look out for values that are sabotaging your time and energy. Focus on core values that bring out your authenticity, make you happy and are more likely to help you achieve your goals.
Step 3: Accept Yourself Fully
Do not waste another second comparing yourself to others or concerning yourself with what others think about you and your choices. It truly does not matter unless you want it to. You get to decide and choose how you live.
Let go of the past, it’s over. Let go of other people’s expectations. Let go of your worry for the future and how things should be. Simply be in the moment. Just be. Simply being in the moment and showing up as your true self is brave, courageous and honorable. It shows your willingness to be vulnerable and open.
“There is nothing more beautiful than seeing a person being themselves. Imagine going through your day being unapologetically you.” – Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
Love Now and Always